summer breeze - keith  new release, totally unremarkable cover of a cheesy af song, until around 3 min into it ..(pause)..       then yowling sounds until it just kinda yowls itself out

I have a Joe too now. he lives up the street. he's some kind of retired cop but also a member of the postal union but also gets some kind of kickbacks for security on private parking lots at stadium sporting events. ya know?

Vegas explodes into children, I honestly have never seen anything quite like it, the first warm day it's like cicadas, they HATCH OUT, making all kinds of noise in every of direction. You just hear their voices and whistling at various games or whatever at parks every twenty feet. 

But tucked in on every block is an old school couple, almost certainly polish and unioned up, and my such person is Joe (and Joyce but you never see her). Joe has mentioned in the past that he likes to gamble a fair bit, and he gets comped every single concert at falls casino a pair of tickets that his wife is mostly not interested in, so I could have them if I wanted sometimes 🤷🏻‍♀️ . he was a friend of the man (Doug) who used to live here whom he clearly still misses, and I keep Doug's mail so that Joe can bring it to him once a month in his nursing home. old people love to send cards 🤷🏻‍♀️

Oldsters (my mom's word) and kids are "my people", all evidence suggests. 

Today on my way to kick my own ass as is the best part of my days these days, Joe caught me in the driveway in the freezing fucking rain to just remind me of this fact and that did I know keith urban was coming up?...

If you think that isn't my mother coming in hot, you've never met her.

straight line - keith from This Time Last Year 

How far does a virgo push herself til she can't come back? 

you'll never see me again - tiny horse bummer

"yo, better shave your legs for this"

run - odd marshall from Heart Like a Truck 

 "In her experience, getting through life as unscathed as possible depended to a large extent on two fundamental principles: knowing the right time to arrive and knowing the right time to leave." 10 Minutes 38 Seconds in This Strange World, Elif Shafak

My mama loves a cowboy and Keith is single again - I will bet you $100 she has had that thought. I'll bet you another $100 that Keith Urban news is how the word "rehab" got in her ear.

from Butterknife's playlist

messed up as me  my choice

we go back new release

long hot summer from Dancing in the Kitchen 💃

alexa ft phone while I was in the shower - 
the only way to save urself re The Knife is complete surrender

shame - keith urban  

Every day is Monday (this day). I wake up and shut down. The mere idea of seeing me (I will not be there when he visits The Knife, and I wasn't even suggesting hanging out! it just crossed his own mind!!) makes him shudder. I can't take more of that. Making him viscerally recoil cannot be my lot. Like I'ma centepede. No I am not.

raised on red flags - ella langley from Heart Like A Truck playlist radio edit

if you were me, made like me, you would not want to be bouncing around endlessly inside your skull if you could be in your body where you (I) should be/stay

the best I can do is beat the shit out of myself and yowl, yes like a therapy cat with no person even tho he's standing (sorta) right there. how you gonna NEVER EVER let that animal just purr and get some rest? 

thredups

"I don’t need to create the moment—I need to see who can meet me in it."

at not quite dawn, I realize the garbage didn't go out, and in classic pajama slapstick and bare feet, I went running out to move the can in time, sending about a guzzilion bunnies out from under the bushes, mulch flying like a groundswell hurricane

they're gonna eat my mother's fucking holly hocks, it'll be a whole thing, Butterknife V Rabbit

she always picks something in nature to be racist about. the bunnies are gonna be the "riff raff" in Vegas, I just know it. when ACTUALLY it's roofers and fence guys and every other kinda guy driving a truck with a company logo 🤨🙄

Can we pick you off the ground?More than flashing lights and sound 

dunno, can ya? 

last day of the semester. technically I am on contract til the 23rd ("must be available" for random meetings), but the last union ie scheduled thing is today, May Day. Every kinda union in this union town is some kinda turning out today/tonight under a Scorpio full moon. (forewarning) 

A Full Moon in Scorpio marks a peak moment of intense emotional release, transformation, and hidden truths coming to light. It acts as a "cosmic mirror" forcing us to confront the shadow self, deep feelings, and old patterns, allowing us to purge what no longer serves us. 

I haven't been striking any matches, but I am gonna make a day of it, yoga and a salted bath and a nap, then a lit X candle before I head out with a huckleberry (play!) gummy in my tummy. 

this one doesn't have a blankie, she has a favorite plate instead, which she sits on in protest when it is empty of pancakes.
kids have clarity.

brokenhearted - karmin another selection from the Bug soundtrack, she cracks me up w this shit 

I'm done trying to pick his ankle bracelet. Mere Impediment is my new name for his wife. She's trapped him by babies from the get. He has to chew his leg off, I dunno, she don't wanna let him go no how. I pray it isn't driving him to drink. That's it. Otherwise, putting her outa my clean mind. 

I just think, or I guess feel: she's irrelevant. She only feels relevant because she's causing him pain but she isn't actually relevant beyond that point. Which is why she is causng him pain. The end.

"do you think we could get back together? kinda maybe?" is not a question he gets to just put back in the bottle AGAIN, nope, I let it go angelic cousin whatever like 3-4 fucking times already, and he's sober now (he says and I believe him until he tells me otherwise) (and even shitfaced I couldn't just let it pass again without a 'hold up'), so I dunno the answer to that question at all but *the question itself*, posed again, makes her irrelevant as far as I am concerned. she will have been a very bad spell he went through, a trauma, which has not killed him before and is irrelevant to the matter of what he and I are gonna decide to do with us.

"I wanna keep all the history, and I also want to start fresh. can I have both?" right answer: yes. 

we can have/do whatever we want 👁to👁 re each other. maybe in no other way is he free to choose but re me he is nothing but, currently

all over folklore, from fairies to vampires whatever, their magic has to be invited in or it won't work. I cannot just seduce him. it has to be the other way around mostly at starts. he has to fudd up. because he likes to. we aren't gonna just skip over that or steamroller anything of any good parts. he has the answer(s) to his own question(s). 

I am not budging from HERE X. 

me, the card I was in his first-ever reading 

him now - defensive and/or overburdened

put it together, that is a lot of DICK ENERGY but not ideally arranged. and although MY devil card is Bettie Paige (pro that card), still, traditionally that card is a lot about addiction and being trapped but by your own choice

it's the same couple who are on the Lovers card, but here they have chains around their necks that they could just lift off themselves but they don't

so what's a girl to do with this situation? if I pull a card, the answer is a different queen entirely, Queen of Pents (presence through permanence)

the only Queen lifesize collage I've made - she lives at the cottage

if I ask my shrink, it's almost the same answer. hold your ground, basically. 

this is unilateral, so it's only a partial answer: I wanna keep all the history, and I also want to start fresh. can I have both? I am "here", yes, as always. but the dynamic of I want him more than he wants me, I'm up he's down, all the scales/balance out of whack - all that crap is not good for either of us. somehow we both have to meet each other where we each are at. 👁to👁 is how we should ideally be seeing, trying to. 

I looked up Bug's song, katy perry lol jeezus  hot and cold - katy perry welp, try singing along to it (loud!) while driving a truck, it's pretty fun 🤷🏻‍♀️

the card of the day is the Devil

I got 99 problems but shame ain't one

the magician - jason isbell 

I told my friend who is into terminal lucidity and dreaming about the dream. He said the reason I don’t know what to say a lot is that sometimes a beautiful lie is better than a terrible truth. 

And I really thought about that.  Maybe some of the things I needed to hear the most were beautiful lies, but if I really needed them then I’m glad somebody knew how to lie to me just right.  And I’ll never be able to return that favor. Like for my mom.

Yesterday, I went and grabbed Sunshine again.  She’s feeling a little better, starting our dickbutter biz and she’s got a recruiter now for travel gigs – seeing freedom as an opportunity, a little, not just lonely.  But she’s still a hard sell.  She’s all about wanting a boyfriend. I read to her stats from my phone – 47% of Americans live without a significant other, 50% of single people are not dating/looking, 61% of people under 30 never plan to partner – it’s not like being alone is ABNORMAL so why you want a dude so bad right now? A best friend to hang out with and eat meals with, she says.  What are you doing right now with your best friend? “Okay but I want to have sex like 3 times a day,” she whispers.  We are in a tiny breakfast café for this conversation.  I say in a normal voice, Ya know there are sex toys for that and they don’t make you sleep in the wet spot.  A few women, all sitting with their dudes, chuckle.  “It’s not the same!,” she hiss-whispers.  Regular voice again, I absolutely agree but a vibrator isn’t going to give you a concussion either unless you get *really* creative with that motherfucker. More chuckling, a few dirty looks. You need a dog. A man is a person, you can’t just crate em (more chuckling). Finally Sunny has to laugh, even though mentioning the concussion that put her in the hospital for several days is a BIG sore spot.

I can sometimes do that. I can spin a terrible truth into a joke.

Then we went and got her a dogwood tree for her front yard because both our fathers died last year and helped provide us SHELTER in the way they did it. Men are good. My son is a god damn prince.  We know a ton of wonderful guys. And our dads did their best by us, really thought about *how to do that* at the end of their lives. Why mope for a man you haven’t even met yet before you honor the ones you already have and have had in your life? (And take the travel gig in Hawaii, I’ll visit.)

I bought two Christmas-smelling pines because this is Vegas, leaning in.

He thinks my family hate him, and they do not, and these are some of the reasons why, is my point - because I am who I am relentlessly.  Ears and I were cracking up one night thinking back on how BAD I WAS at dealing with unhappiness, his or any of theirs, and I STILL AM!  If he wasn’t happy every fucking second I BECAME HYSTERICAL, what was the poor fucker supposed to do with that? My bad 🤷🏻‍♀️ Ears is so adorable the way he snickered at that.  TJ is just like, remember when you looked up “empathy” and were upset that there weren’t concrete chores in the definition?  And I’m still almost as bad, like “UPSET?!, let’s plant a tree!!”

It’s a lack of imagination completely.  I just can’t imagine how to make anyone feel better except by doing the things that I do when I myself have been unwell, and which keep me well if I keep doing them. Steeeeeaaady, girl – as if I am my own ornery spooked horse. 

It would have neeeeeeever occurred to me to want a rolex, ie to be a person who inspires that, however that happens. It’s just not in me, whatever that is.

And yet. Emotional bonds like the one I have to him are tethered down to the center of the earth right through me some kinda how.  I can’t tell if the other person wants that or feels like a tetherball. Maybe both? It feels molten at the bottom, to me.

Ok so,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

dunno lol. I mean, we have been on this brink of the Maybe We Could Something thing like um a lot of times now. I’m actually laughing as I write this, but uhhm this last year’s experience suggests that I know I’m in a relationship with him if I never ever see him because he’s married hahahahahha which has happened sooooo much omg, even the last time I remember totally like I’m letting this go I can’t love this dude no more with the whole gotta give it a year thing going on into the fall and I remember as soon as I really felt that way, taking a walk around my little village, feeling like living is nice in itself I enjoy it so I’m okay and I’ll just stop thinking about him -- like that song this morning that’s exactly where my head was at -- then he’s like “hold up!…”

Was that the same year I blew the Kurt Cobainolantern’s brains all over the front door?

Anyway. Uhh, we gotta work on that as a pattern, maybe?  Every single time Bug runs the jukebox (in the car from my phone), she’s in charge of the SOUNDTRACK OF LIFE CURRENTLY, like a way to communicate from her perspective, and she plays that hot/cold song at me. Always.  Until I know every word and am yup howling along with it hahahahhaha oof but my rebel yelling always delights her. 

So yea what’s up with me mostly aside from kicking up dust constantly because it’s the beeeeest part about being sober. I love being shockingly sober. It wasn’t the booze at all, I’m actually THIS MUCH naturally, A LOT all the time, MORE sober than not! and how can that be objectionable really? I was born this way, lalalaaa - my AUDACIOUSNESS PROJECT (performance art). Sometimes I even flirt, which is fun, with dudes who aren’t gonna do shit about it but blush, I find that kind of a blast to do sober af sometimes.

Otherwise frankly I’ve been trying to figure out what to do about being some kinda in love with my ex who is always married a lot more than advertised is mostly what’s up with me.  It’s driven me kinda half batshit with a horny v frigid reactive disorder that I’ll work through with my sturdy little therapist in the morning (hahahahahha) – and that’s what I’m gonna do, I’m going to laugh because only this one man on this earth can drive me this kinda crazy, wives falling out of his pockets if ya hold his ass upside down. 

I exercise A LOT.

Welp, at least for tonight (let’s not count any gift of chicks too soon), I’m the very not-played-with girlfiend-ish-thing (v cousin).  It’s calming to a Virgo to know where she stands, even in space.  And most of all, he sounds good. I mean, physically alive definitely. Tired. I dunno, maybe the whole bankrupt looming wall is kind of a good thing, like a rock bottom, ya can’t get blood out of a rock typa deal. If he was working 40 hours (I think they’re supposed to cap child support at 150% hours), two kids is around 24% of that off the gross ….

See? What my brain does with this shit? It goes all over the place trying to solve his problems for him like s lunatic. I wrote porn for him and he never even wanted to read any - that is COLD! but then I’m just like yea, I want ya back, because I just instantly instinctively do that with him. Arms open.  But by now I’m kinda a little like dude what did you think I have been doing with the whole huckleberry courtship hits the windshield like a bug thing?  sucking it up and lighting candles unto madness 🤏? (and I think your wife [or mother] is trying to hex me btw, is that possible?)

So uhh that’s mostly what’s up with me.

And spending a looooot of money on trees. And fences and roofs and don’t get me started on my mother’s hydrangea obsession. I am past the point of nesting to brooding. Honestly it's a weirdly awesome feeling, just like ovulating but without the overhead. As is my Goddess given right as queen of the soul bunker and cottage core. It IS my job to make paradise(s), and that I shall. My mother is about to arrive to oversee the ongoing crusades. And I’ma gonna hold steady right HERE X

I can't love you any more - langley ft wallen #grammar