I got us both a self-disclosure journal so we could practice "deep listening", ala Thich Nhat Hahn.

came and I opened to this page

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It sucked.
It sucked.
Should avoid each other like the plague.
At least we're not niggers.
It sucks/you do it.
Italians: we will kill you, and each other, and we cook really well.