A friendship may no longer and not primarily consist in a resolute and thus mutually generous way of siding with one another in the world, but in a constant and prior watching out for how the other sets out to deal with what is meant by friendship, in a constant check on whether he turns out to be one or not. --Heidegger The problem with everyone you know is that they think they know you already, and it's nearly impossible to disabuse them of that assumption.