I learned watching Landman that having sex while wearing hair extensions (locked down not clip-in crap) is "Saturday night sex." Not long ago, he said to me, 'Remember when you had those extensions, that was CRAZY!'
I wouldn't do it again lol. But I don't know what I would do now except I still think every little stupid thing should be going for the "saturday night" version of itself. I have returned to my vows on that particular life philosophy.
MARU MORI, constant awareness of
Hear me out. A healthy human being needs a lot of things. And trying to get all those needs met and trying to help get them met for others, it is very complicated. You have to be constantly humble in the face of that, I think.
But, all kindsa affections can be manifested in a million little things.
Doting is part fetish. And are we not past kinkshaming?
Plus, ya think Thoreau's painstaking re-straightening of old nails, all of them, wasn't extreme attention to the physical preciousness of the everyday?
"tell me how the love stays strong when the food runs through"
paying attention 👁 for one
MARU MORI - the heartbreaking simplicity of ordinary things
"Most living things don’t need to remind themselves that life is precious. They simply pass the time. An old cat can sit in the window of a bookstore, whiling away the hours as people wander through. Blinking calmly, breathing in and out, idly watching a van being unloaded across the street, without thinking too much about anything. And that’s alright. It’s not such a bad way to live. So much of life is spent this way, in ordinary time. There’s no grand struggle, no sacraments, no epiphanies. Just simple domesticity, captured in little images, here and there. All the cheap little objects. The jittering rattle of an oscillating fan; a pair of toothbrushes waiting in a cup by the sink. There’s the ragged squeal of an old screen door, the dry electronic screech of a receipt being printed, the ambient roar of someone showering upstairs. And the feeling of pulling on a pair of wool socks on a winter morning and peeling them off at the end of the day. These are sensations that pass without a second thought. So much of it is barely worth noting. But in a couple hundred years, this world will turn over to a completely different cast of characters. They won’t look back and wonder who won the battles or when. Instead, they’ll try to imagine how we lived day to day, gathering precious artifacts of the world as it once was, in all its heartbreaking little details. They’ll look for the doodles left behind in the margins of our textbooks, and the dandelions pressed in the pages. They’ll try to imagine how our clothes felt on our bodies, and what we ate for lunch on a typical day, and what it might’ve cost. They’ll wonder about our superstitions, the weird little memes and phrases and jokes we liked to tell, the pop songs we hummed mindlessly to ourselves. They’ll try to imagine how it must’ve felt to stand on a street corner, looking around at the architecture, hearing old cars rumbling by. The smell in the air. What ketchup must have tasted like. We rarely think to hold on to that part of life. We don’t build statues of ordinary people. We don’t leave behind little plaques to commemorate the milestones of ordinary time: HERE ON THE TWENTY FIFTH OF MARCH NINETEEN HUNDRED AND NINETY FOUR SOME NEIGHBORS WENT OUT WALKING THEIR DOGS THE CHILDREN TOOK TURNS HOLDING THE LEASH IT WAS A FUN AFTERNOON FOR EVERYONE INVOLVED But it all still happened. All those cheap and disposable experiences are no less real than anything in our history books, no less sacred than anything in our hymnals. Perhaps we should try keeping our eyes open while we pray, and look for the meaning hidden in the things right in front of us: in the sound of Tic Tacs rattling in a box, the throbbing ache of hiccups, and the punky smell that lingers on your hands after doing the dishes. Each is itself a kind of meditation, a reminder of what is real.: A tribute to Maru Mori, a friend of Pablo Neruda, whose gift of wool socks inspired his poem “Ode to My Socks.” Compare memento mori, a poignant reminder of your own mortality. Pronounced “mah-roo moh-ree.”
~Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, emphasis mine.
These are all the things on my life list, I don't NOT notice them (!), I notice them relentlessly, and want these tiny moments to all catch the light That's why in therapy, I had to make a list of "nothing(s)" bc they're everything to me.
(1)(1)(1)(1).jpg)
.jpg)
.jpg)
