time is of the essence

hold me - teskey brothers love his voice, these soulful cracker types really do it for me

Hold someone but not hold them down. I think about this a lot. How to? With my kids too. "I want you to be happy for me" lifted a weight off my chest, permission to feel that at all. I mean, think about that, I'm supposedly (very supposedly lol) in the role of woman wanting to fuck this guy and yet I haven't felt a mote of happiness for his divorce since it became real. That's funny to me. (I sure felt happy about it the first time 🤭) Welp, with permission, the more divorced he is the happier (for him) I'll be. And I hope he gets fired, quits, whatever, a serious break from death all  of  the  time. Both, the partner and the job gotta go. He's right, blowing everything up hurts. DUH. It kicked my ass for well over a year. And I ain't plumped back up a bit yet.

Loving somebody is itself a weight, a grounding comforting one is what you're going for, I think, but sometimes there's grief(s) that weighs on you. seems unavoidable, doesn't it? like that saying, love is grief backwards. In the end, you'll be out of do-overs and lose everything so you should love as if time is of the essence.

time is of the essence - that's a beautiful phrase, now that I'm looking at it ....

....so I looked it up, and lo and behold, that thing passed on Oct 3rd for my little can't quite pull it off (yet) buyer 🤨 good thing I always allow late work out of everyday decency 🙄

The saying "time is of the essence" originated in English contract law as a legal term to emphasize that a deadline is a critical part of an agreement. If a contract contains a "time is of the essence" clause, failing to meet the deadline can be considered a breach of contract, potentially leading to penalties. The phrase has since expanded to be used more generally to mean that a situation is urgent. 

Legal origin

• Contract law: The phrase first appeared in legal contracts to stress the importance of meeting specified deadlines.