called that shit, all the way around

wasn't aware that you can get up to the same shit in "domestic" court like family and divorce courts. all the same basics hold. ringcameraspatternsofbehaviorwhichoneisaworsepersonwhopaidforwhatbackwhenwhotextedwhowhat all of it, 99% inadmissable cz courts will not adjudicate personal lives, an then they will punish all involved finally, which is honestly painful to watch since if you're there obviously everyone is already in pain. but what they gonna do? they cannot will not heal your shit. ntj

I'll skip the details that included two cafes by the time it was over, #drama. my personal fave moment: she has stormed out, he is already gone, I am in the DA's office just standing there, I look at the DA and ask "just to be clear, the best thing she can do is not text him right?" YES 😳. "I will see what I can do."

And I did, and I will. I could use the company, and she needs different goggles. Not better just different. 

Such as. At the second cafe she went on and on about how she would just like a boyfriend who would like her for who she is and be capable of companionship, yadayada. All fair! "Let's say there was someone amazing standing right in front of you, and they were capable of all kinds of companionship and affection and authentic interest in you. What honestly do you have to offer to that person? To that human being who would stand between you and your fight with your "partner whatever" on your mind all. the. time., trying to get your attention even 🤏 - What do you have to offer such a great person? Enlighten me."

On a day featuring what would be classically interpreted as a lucky lunar trine and a difficult solar trine, we are reminded of the philosophical concept of perspectivism: Events can only be understood from different perspectives across time. An event that is auspicious in one context is inconvenient in another. Assume the ending will be happy. If it's not happy, it's not the ending.

I gotta get to court. She says her body is terrified, sick and afraid of passing out. That is trauma territory. In truth, I do not have the full reason(s) she has to do this. How is a break-up in court if they weren't married? There wasn't a handfasting, eiher. So I keep reminding her that she can just: put him down. Like dropping him at the station with a one-way ticket ❌️

What she hopes for is the ability to call today The End, she says. Lots of court around me atm, lots of wishing there was no court, but courts don't come to you, do they? If you have been grabbed by ICE, then yes. If you can't quit your relationship, I am dubious - court seems like where you might keep that shit up (#pittjolie). And I know her, free of mind/him she is not so maybe that's why I am here, I have had a lot of practice at that (like it or not).

what am I gonna - chris song for that (repost)